"Before I finished praying in my heart, Rebekah came out, with her jar on her shoulder. She went down to the spring and drew water, and I said to her, 'Please give me a drink.' She quickly lowered her jar from her shoulder and said, 'Drink, and I'll water your camels too.' So I drank, and she watered the camels also." Genesis 24:45-46
This passage comes from the story of Isaac and Rebekah. Abraham, Isaac's dad, sent a servant to their native country to find a bride for his son. The messenger was looking for the right kind of girl. That was the key. God blessed Rebekah's life and relationship because she proved to be the right kind of mate. She was the kind of girl that would water a stranger's camels. Single people are often looking for Mr. Right or Miss Perfect. That's the wrong pursuit. Instead, I always ask single people, "Are you the type of person that the type of person you want to marry wants to marry?" You may have to read that a few times to let it sink in. The same is true in marriage. Often, we want our spouse to change a behavior, to modify something to make our relationship better. Of course, there are times the right kind of communication needs to happen to make that a reality. However, our focus in marriage should be on being the right kind of spouse. We can control our actions. I've found that when I am the man God wants me to be, my wife is drawn to Christ, too. In our marriages, let us be the kind of spouse that focuses on the things we can control: our attitudes, behaviors, and spirit. Be the best you can be. Be the right kind of guy and the right kind of gal for your spouse...and just see what happens.
